Meet my blue eyed boy

Meet My Blue Eyed Boy

   I have a beautiful blue eyed boy.  He’s sweet, energetic, funny, creative and smart, but these wonderful traits are often masked by other not so pleasing traits.  The traits that are related to his ADHD such as impulsive, unfocused, disobedient, and sometimes even mean.   Those are the words that people who do not really know him would describe him as, but lucky for me I am his mother.  I have seen how far he has come and how hard he has worked to gain even a little control.    

                How do I have these two beings in my wonderful little boy?  One amazing and sweet and loving, and one surviving the day, feeling like his body is going to go everywhere at any minute if he does not move.  Seeing something and having to touch it, thinking a thought and having to say it.  Getting angry and not knowing how to think through the problem and just reacting.   So how do I get people to see past the unfocused, hyper, and disobedient kid to see the true loving, sweet kid underneath?

                I know how great my kid is, but it is hard to sit back and watch the constant time outs, redirection, and discipline he gets at school, church and at home in order to keep that small amount of progress moving forward.  He has so much negative in his life, yet he stays so positive.  It reaffirms to me his true character, not just his symptoms.  But his symptoms have really become a part of him as well.  He is who he is, and I love him no matter what.

 I can truly say that I am so proud of him.  Most days he gives 110%, even though it not apparent, because out of that 110% he’s only successful 50% of the time.  Most people would give up if they were faced with as much failure as he does.  I admire him and how much he tries every day!   He inspires me to be a better person and mother.  What more can you ask for in a son!

Welcome to Day 2 Day - Life with ADHD

            I have ADHD!  And I live a successful, though crazy life with it.  A lot of times I drive my husband crazy as he follows me closing cupboards, but through this fun brain of mine we have grown and love each other even more.  On top of that, my son has ADHD so now we get to navigate his world which is not easy.  So join me on the days I survive and the days I thrive.

I hesitated starting this blog, but after real consideration and deep reflection I decided to go ahead.  It takes a lot to be vulnerable, but I recently published an article in my church’s magazine about struggles I have had with my son, who has ADHD, and how faith in God helped me.  I got so many positive responses from people who have had similar experiences and how having someone’s different perspective helped them as well.  It has given me the courage to write about my personal experiences with ADHD as an adult women, mother and wife and dealing with ADHD and ODD in my oldest son.

There’s two main ideas for my blog.  The first is to experience my life with ADHD, and the second is to see ADHD through the eyes of the parent.

My goals for this blog is to be open and honest.  I want the good and the bad to show through and how I deal with them.  I plan on showing the “tricks” to my brain and hopefully you can better understand how at least one person’s ADHD brain works.  I’ll show you how I clean, work, create, and organize.

The more intense part of the blog will be about my son.  As a parent with a child who has severe ADHD dealing with the everyday is complicated and hard.  There has been so many moments that I have cried and so often that I have felt like my heart was going to break.  Sometimes I have to look back to see the entire picture and that’s when I see how much he has grown and how far he has come, and I can forget the little hard moments.  So regardless of my constant worry I know that we are making progress and there is a lot of reason’s to find joy.  Hopefully, what I have learned and experienced with my son can give you a bigger picture so that with your struggles you can find what you need to find joy!

Welcome to my blog!  If the next time I post is months or years from now, remember I have ADHD!